One of the most common misconceptions I have seen/heard about marriage is this “If I marry the right person, the emotions will happen naturally and effortlessly throughout our marriage.” Have you heard that before? Another variation of it is “If my emotions change toward my spouse, I must have married the wrong person.” Nothing can […]
A few years back, I heard a quote from one of our marriage mentors that left me thinking and evaluating myself and my behaviours towards my wife. He said “Marriage is brutal on selfish people and insisting that you get to do your own thing—rather than sharing interests with your spouse—is selfish behaviour. Marriage is […]
One of the excuses that people give for divorce, or other marital issues is that of incompatibility. We often hear “We are not just compatible and the solution to that is to go our separate ways, hoping to meet others with whom we are more compatible”. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Marital compatibility […]
Built to Last – The Marriage Edition (Part 4) We started this series by asking a fundamental question about marriage – What makes a marriage work? What keeps some couples together through thick, thin, and everything in between for decades, while other unions flounder seemingly right out of the starting gate? What needs to be […]