Happily Incompatible

One of the excuses that people give for divorce, or other marital issues is that of incompatibility. We often hear “We are not just compatible and the solution to that is to go our separate ways, hoping to meet others with whom we are more compatible”. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Marital compatibility …

Marital Success Is Predictable

Success rarely happens accidentally. The same is true for failure. One of the powerful laws that govern our world (and that I like so much) is the law of cause and effect. Simply put, the law of cause and effect states that for every effect there is a definite cause, likewise for every cause, there …

Why Relationships Falter

Relationships rarely end because someone falls out of love. They do because someone made a decision to quit – months or even years before they decide to leave. This is seldom sudden. It is a gradual process that takes place over time. Relationships end as a result of a number of things. It could be …

Dealing with Changes

No marriage relationship can be in the same position perpetually. As the saying goes, the only constant thing in life is change. As the year go by (or sometimes even very early in the marriage), changes will occur. Some changes could be self-initiated (change of job, change of location, raising children etc.), while others are …

Welcome To 2020 & A New Decade!!

Earlier in the day, bangs and flashes set off the new year all over the world – from Sydney to Hong Kong, London to Rio De Janerio, from Asia to America, there were several fireworks to usher in a new year, and a new decade. We welcome you into the new year and decade. It’s …

What Has Marriage Got To Do With Flying?

While on an airplane this past week, we (Team Fortified) were conversing about the subject of flying and a couple of parallels that you can draw between flying successfully and having a happy marriage. We had also listened to a similar illustration from one of our mentors, Jimmy Evans. Let’s share a couple of these …

15 – 4 – 15 Is Here!! – FORTIFY 001

Finally it’s here… what you’ve been watching this space for😎 15 – 4 – 15!! Today, our 15th Wedding Anniversary and also the 1st Year Anniversary of ‘Fortified Together’, 🥁🥁🥁… we are excited to announce the launch of “FORTIFY 001”, the 1st of many resources being put together to help us support marriages and families. …

Your Tone Matters!

There’s an old phrase that couples use when something one partner says starts an argument — “it’s not what you said, it’s how you said it.” Sounds familiar? I bet it does. What you say is important but how (and probably, when) you say it is much more important. Recent studies have shown that communication …

Marriage Myths

When we were preparing to get married, we got so many different counsels from people who meant well. Over the years, we can confirm that some of the counsel we got though well-intended, were quite unhealthy and could be destructive to marriages. We see many couples facing the same challenge today, and we’d like to …

Are Running Out of Fuel?

Can we start with this question? Have you ever driven a car that ran out of fuel/gas before? Maybe not. But have you ever been in one? Okay, maybe it didn’t go that bad. But have you ever been close to running out of fuel/gas, where your gauge was already showing the warning signal?  Why …