When you see a great marriage, you can be assured that there are other great marriages around it. The community you keep will have a great impact on your marriage – positively or negatively.
Earlier in our marriage (and till now), we were blessed to be surrounded by great couple friends, who we met regularly with and were accountable to. Hearing the challenges they were facing while trying to make their own marriages work, and how they worked on it, was often a comfort and a great relief as well. We knew that we were not in this alone and apart from God’s presence, we could also leverage the experience and the wisdom of others.
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching” (Hebrews 10:24–25).
If the community of friends you keep believe that divorce is a top option, then you are in trouble my friend. If your friends don’t see anything wrong with cheating on your spouse, you are certainly in harms way. If you have buddies that will hail you while you break your marriage vows, then you are of all men the most miserable!
Community is valuable because true friends hold you accountable. They take you to the woodshed when you make poor choices. They share your values. They spur you on toward good and help you avoid evil. And hopefully, you do the same for them.
Your friends have a far greater impact on your marriage than your enemies!
Choose your community wisely. Surround yourself rightly!